Posts tagged sexism
Posts tagged sexism
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how I never got to meet my abuelito because he died when I was only a few months old. I realize now his death had a lot to do with patriarchy.
My abuelito was diagnosed with colon cancer somewhere around 24 years ago. He refused to go to the doctor because his fellow farmers and field workers told him it would be weak of him to seek treatment. My abuelita was a fearsome feminist, starting fist fights with men who were harassing women on the street, encouraging housewives to work when they came to her bereaved by how poor they were — the whole nine. It was SHE who begged him to seek medical treatment. It was SHE who tried to negotiate and placate him, but he remained haunted with the idea that if he stopped working to seek treatment, he would be a failed husband, father and man.
I never met him. When my mom went to Mexico as he was dying, he knew me only through photographs. He spent his last days distraught that he would never watch me grow up. All because his compatriots attacked his masculinity.
That’s patriarchy, my friends. That is not women hating men. That is not female privilege. That is most assuredly NOT feminism. It is a collective of men dictating arbitrary standards of behavior for all sexes that insist all eschew traditionally feminine behavior in order to be viewed as worthy of a phony prize.
So don’t you DARE tell me patriarchy doesn’t exist. Don’t send me ignorant messages calling me stupid and jokingly saying that I could always blame patriarchy like it’s some delusion. Don’t you EVER look me in the face and tell me patriarchy isn’t part of the reason my abuelito suffered a horrible death, unable to move and without pain killers as the unforgivably painful disease known as cancer sucked the life out of him just so his male comrades could think he died a proud man.
If you really care about men, stand up with me a smash this ludicrous institution.
“I’m so sick of whiny feminists! You’re only victims because you WANT to be!”
I will rip your eyes out of your fucking sockets. (⊙‿⊙✿)
Question! How is it that the same men who blame women for “being attracted to assholes” want us to feel sorry for men who were “falsely accused” of things for custody and the like? Why aren’t you verbally abusing them about affiliating with assholes? Why are women always the butt of your vitriol?
Hint: Because you’re fucking misogynists.
If we’re assuming that the pretense that MRAs and ~humanists/egalitarians~ pose that feminists “hate men” is true, maybe they should start telling men — whether they subscribe to any of the aforementioned theories or not — to stop assaulting women who identify as feminists.
And I don’t want to here “give me sources!!!11!” You want sources? Start messaging feminists. Message every feminist on Tumblr you can find and ask them, if they are ok with giving out that information, if they’ve been assaulted by men for their beliefs. THAT’S your source. THAT’S what matters. This isn’t about who can outdo each other in a so-called battle of academia. It’s about asking everyday women about their experiences and fucking LISTENING TO THEM. It isn’t just about amassing the most “facts” as possible and throwing numbers and names at each other. It’s about the disempowered who may not necessarily get the chance to speak on a higher platform.
You want real reasons why feminism is still fucking valid? LISTEN TO WOMEN. ALL WOMEN. NOT JUST THE ONES WHO YOU AGREE WITH OR ARE TRYING TO EMBARRASS.
How come when a woman gets pregnant, conservatives say that she has to take responsibility because it was her own fault for “not being able to control her sexual urges,” yet scores of these same conservatives maintain rape is not a man’s fault because he “can’t control his sexual urges?”
Attn. misogynists: Literally the last fucking thing I care about is what men think about women.
What has the world come to
My face is the same as hers.
I hope I die. This can’t be real.
The only things I need:
I’ve had it with White Male Hipster (TM) misogyny. I’ve had it with nearly every White Male Hipster I strike a conversation with treating me like I don’t know anything. I’m tried of White Male Hipsters discrediting my opinion even though another White Male Hipster could say the same shit and they’d be bros.
I’m tired of the fact that any time a woman speaks her mind and does something other than serve as a prop to stroke the White Male Hipster ego, she’s treated as a problem and a “bitch,” ESPECIALLY WoC. I’m tired of the ideology that breeds in young women who hang out with these fools — the idea that they “aren’t like those other girls.”
Fuck White Male Hipsters. Kiss my giant, educated, Latina booty, you condescending fuckers. Oh, and by the way, you’re not the only ones with opinions on politics, and you also drink shitty beer. Shove a Pliny up your ass with that PBR-drinking, “I’m so progressive”-bullshittery you call a personality. Because everything you say only benefits you and other white males, you oblivious fuckwits.
I always try to speak up when I feel harassed, and while I do sometimes get a scolding and even hate, I most often get advice that tries to be good by making my feelings of discomfort into a positive thing.
People always say, “Maybe he just thinks you’re pretty” or “That’s what happens when you’re hot” (this one is usually followed by enthusiastic giggling). It’s not that I don’t appreciate my friends taking the time to remind me that I’m beautiful and/or worthwhile, but I can’t help but wonder ever time: Have any of them ever considered that if being made to feel violated and sometimes terrified is a consequence of “being beautiful,” then maybe I don’t WANT to be beautiful?