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Alright here’s the thing: “Spoiling a man” should not inherently be wrong, but it gets problematic with the way it’s presented and viewed by society at large. Don’t feel ashamed when you meet a man you want to spoil. Spoiling is a sign of caring — parents “spoil” their children, grandparents “spoil” their grandchildren, people “spoil” their fucking dogs. A relationship is essentially finding someone you’d be happy to spoil for the rest of your life. The catch is that it must be mutual. Spoiling is not a fucking power dynamic and if anyone tries to feed it to you that way, shove them away and out of your life and start running. Ok thank you carry on.

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Know the difference between who a person is and when they are making excuses. There’s a gossamer-sized line between accepting a person as they are and defending their apathy. Don’t get caught in someone else’s issues because once you’re stuck, trying to get out can be like fighting against quicksand. You just can’t win. In fact, trying to win will likely be your downfall.

Don’t settle for “that’s just the way they are.” A person who is there for you, dedicated to you, loves you and respects you will ALWAYS go above and beyond. They will challenge themselves and break their limits for you. So don’t pardon someone who ignores you because they’re the “life of the party” and don’t have time to make nice with any one person in particular. A person who cares for you will want you to be the life of the party with them.

Never shame yourself for wanting to call out a partner’s behavior. Who you are and what you need is just as important as who they are and what they need. The person who loves you wants to hear these criticism and will do their absolute best to take them in stride. Someone who loves you will take you seriously and promise to do better in the future and actually make good on that promise. If you don’t feel like you can do that with someone, don’t excuse them as hot-headed or sensitive. Excuse yourself from that relationship as fast as you can.

Know the difference between acceptance and getting trampled on. The person who loves you won’t break your back.

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And Columbus

During every subway ride downtown
and back,
there is a window,
a pocket of time where I remember,
whether you are here
to set the city aglow
or casting your light
a distant while away

And by the time I see it,
it’s been years;
that star is dead,
and you long abandoned that place

But I will always think of you
in those seven paces
counting down from 100
and vice versa
Dec. 7, 2012, ~9:30 p.m. 

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