Posts tagged men
Posts tagged men
Grown ass men stealing a basketball half court from two little boys then trying to talk to me. YEAH MY LOINS ARE SO HOT RIGHT NOW BROS.
I have no interest in dating men whose only interest is me.
Who victim blame a woman for not being “tough enough” or “fighting back enough”
Who go on to laugh at a victim who is offended by his comments, as if to suggest they find her* pain funny
Who roll their eyes at harassment, rape, domestic abuse and murder statistics for women
are the first ones to cry “violence” when a woman says she oughta slap him or that he deserves to get beat up or mockingly says “kill all men.”
Yeah. Funny how that works.
If you’re stupid enough to buy me a drink before asking if I’m interested in fucking/dating/speaking to you, then you deserve to lose your money on that gamble.
I’m not going to pretend this will last forever, that this goes for any feminist or ally, or that everyone should/will feel this way.
But what I will say is that sometimes when I get the chance to think, I feel so defeated.
I’m forever told that:
And this evening I just feel like I’ll never have any real guy friends or a boyfriend who truly respects me. I have so many guy friends, but I get so disappointed when some of them are misogynistic or treat me like I’m “one of the guys.” That is, they sometimes punch me on the shoulder (hard. I’m barely 125 lbs. I’m not as tough as I’d like to be), mock me, get aggressive, tell me I ask for what I get because they forget that although I am strong and identify with them (sometimes), I have my own gender identity. Being a feminist does not make me a man. It does not make me a lesbian—and speaking on that, even if I WAS a lesbian, that does NOT make someone a man either. Lesbians are women. Period. But ultimately, it does not make me “one of them.” Saying: “If you want to be equal to us, you have to sleep in your bed” is bullshit. Feminism isn’t about blurring gender lines. It’s about respecting EVERYONE, gender and all.
And sometimes I interact with women I can’t relate with. They tell me I’m scary. They tell me I am clueless. They tell me to get used to being lonely and abused if I don’t change. I watch reality TV with some of them and the women they idolize, who are so loved and respected, make me feel like an outsider. I do not want to ever behave like them. I don’t see anything wrong with how they choose to act, but most of them are privileged white women who don’t necessarily have to fight for anything if they don’t want to. I can’t identify with them, but I feel pressured to conform to their standards of behavior in order to be liked.
And that’s a shame. Anyone, feminist or not, should have just as much a chance at being respected by their peers. No one should have to conform to the crap in magazines, reality TV, advertising, whatever to feel like they belong. And right now I just feel like no one could ever love me for who I am and accept my feminism. I’m always going to be the “feminazi bitch” men don’t want to be associated with. I am in my own world.
This will pass soon, but I think it’s important to share with other feminists or strong women who may not choose to identify with feminism that your fight may not be the easiest. You may feel unloved and excluded. You may want to give up. But never do. Because we’re all in this together.
And that’s my rant for tonight. Thank you.
Having guy problems. FUCK, I hate admitting this. Someone help me. Talk here.
Patriarchy is when you stop and realize all your best women friends have body-image problems and only maybe one or two of your guy friends do. And even with the guys, it’s not something they are worried sick about every day, forcing themselves to work out to be muscular/thin or depriving themselves of food because of it like the women.