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The shutter clicked, but the film did not go round
The shutter clicked, but the film did not go round
I touch these strings but cannot touch the sound

Take a train to a bus and then into the air
Take a train to a bus and then into the air
If I had wings, I’d follow you up there

Girl, you know I hate to see you go
I hate to see you go
But the sunlight follows you right down the road

Just the thought of you makes me want to cry
Just the thought of you makes me want to cry
This deep well of tears has just run dry 

You showed me just how easy love could be
You showed me just how silly love could be
But everything you showed me gracefully

Everyone’s gotta leave their love sometime
Everyone’s gotta leave their love sometime
If not now, then at the end of your lifetime

You’ll be waiting by my bed, I know
You’ll be waiting by my bed, I know 
And your last little words will be “I love you so”

The shutter clicked, but the film did not go round
The shutter clicked, but the film did not go round
I touch these strings but cannot touch the sound

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My current crisis with feminism

I’m not going to pretend this will last forever, that this goes for any feminist or ally, or that everyone should/will feel this way.

But what I will say is that sometimes when I get the chance to think, I feel so defeated.

I’m forever told that:

  • "Women don’t get guys that way"
  • "You shouldn’t approach a man like that"
  • "He treated you that way because you got too unruly"
  • "You’re too intimidating for a man"
  • "You’re going to be lonely for the rest of your life"
  • "Stop calling out the guys you like and they won’t run from you"

And this evening I just feel like I’ll never have any real guy friends or a boyfriend who truly respects me. I have so many guy friends, but I get so disappointed when some of them are misogynistic or treat me like I’m “one of the guys.” That is, they sometimes punch me on the shoulder (hard. I’m barely 125 lbs. I’m not as tough as I’d like to be), mock me, get aggressive, tell me I ask for what I get because they forget that although I am strong and identify with them (sometimes), I have my own gender identity. Being a feminist does not make me a man. It does not make me a lesbian—and speaking on that, even if I WAS  a lesbian, that does NOT make someone a man either. Lesbians are women. Period. But ultimately, it does not make me “one of them.” Saying: “If you want to be equal to us, you have to sleep in your bed” is bullshit. Feminism isn’t about blurring gender lines. It’s about respecting EVERYONE, gender and all.

And sometimes I interact with women I can’t relate with. They tell me I’m scary. They tell me I am clueless. They tell me to get used to being lonely and abused if I don’t change. I watch reality TV with some of them and the women they idolize, who are so loved and respected, make me feel like an outsider. I do not want to ever behave like them. I don’t see anything wrong with how they choose to act, but most of them are privileged white women who don’t necessarily have to fight for anything if they don’t want to. I can’t identify with them, but I feel pressured to conform to their standards of behavior in order to be liked.

And that’s a shame. Anyone, feminist or not, should have just as much a chance at being respected by their peers. No one should have to conform to the crap in magazines, reality TV, advertising, whatever to feel like they belong. And right now I just feel like no one could ever love me for who I am and accept my feminism. I’m always going to be the “feminazi bitch” men don’t want to be associated with. I am in my own world.

This will pass soon, but I think it’s important to share with other feminists or strong women who may not choose to identify with feminism that your fight may not be the easiest. You may feel unloved and excluded. You may want to give up. But never do. Because we’re all in this together.

And that’s my rant for tonight. Thank you.

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startdietingtomorrow:

A - If I’m in love.B - Who the last person I talked to on the phone was.C - How long it’s been since I’ve kissed.D - If I have a preference for boys or girls.E - How many holes I have in my ears.F - Give me any options, like ‘hot or cold?’G - The last person I said ‘I love you’ to.H - The last person I hugged.I - The last time I felt jealous, and why.J - How old I am.K- What my full name is.L - If I have siblings.M - If I forgive betrayal.N - If you want to know how I treat my friends.O - If I like my school.P - What kind of music I like.Q - What the last party I went to was, and when the next will be.R - For me to tell 10 of my curiosities.S - 2 habits.T- 5 things I love unconditionally.U - How many texts I send daily.V - 3 big dreams.W - An idol.X - If I’ve done something I regret very much.Y - If I like my town and why.Z - Ask any question you want.
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startdietingtomorrow:

A - If I’m in love.
B - Who the last person I talked to on the phone was.
C - How long it’s been since I’ve kissed.
- If I have a preference for boys or girls.
E - How many holes I have in my ears.
F - Give me any options, like ‘hot or cold?’
- The last person I said ‘I love you’ to.
H - The last person I hugged.
I - The last time I felt jealous, and why.
- How old I am.
K- What my full name is.
- If I have siblings.
M - If I forgive betrayal.
N - If you want to know how I treat my friends.
O - If I like my school.
P - What kind of music I like.
Q - What the last party I went to was, and when the next will be.
R - For me to tell 10 of my curiosities.
S - 2 habits.
T- 5 things I love unconditionally.
U - How many texts I send daily.
V - 3 big dreams.
W - An idol.
X - If I’ve done something I regret very much.
Y - If I like my town and why.
Z - Ask any question you want.

Please? 0:]

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