Posts tagged feminism

HA! Well, today is a hot day in fabulous New York, so I’m wearing a nice, professional work dress and nylons. The first thing someone says to me when I come up out of the subway on Wall Street?

“Mmm, hi sexy.”

I’ll ask again: Must my professionalism be dumbed down to nothing but my “sex appeal?”

So there ya go, fuckwits. Men don’t need you to be their personal defenders. I’ve lives here and existed long enough as a woman to know when boneheaded, sexist perverts are devaluing me.

On my way to work today a guy passes me and tries to seductively mutter “Oh, how elegant.”

Yeah. I work in an office in the fucking Financial District in NYC. Must my professionalism be dumbed down to nothing but my “sex appeal?”

I can’t believe I’m literally hiding behind a chip bag so I can eat in peace without the weirdo who purposely sat across from me staring. I am intermittently peeking around the bag. He is not happy with me. So done with male bullshit today.

This morning has got off to a great start! I protected a woman from a creeper who was making her uncomfortable with his unwanted advances.

He tried to rope me into it earlier by asking me if he was on the downtown platform, but I was brief with him and returned to reading my book without another word. Aside from the fact that a sign that said DOWNTOWN hung right above us, I caught him staring at my ass just before he asked the question, and in fact, I think the only reason he did was because I looked up at him quickly.

I heard him try to pull the same BS with this woman in running clothes out for an early jog. He kept trying to ask her about the number she was wearing (clearly was part of some event) and about her running prowess, which she was only answering halfheartedly until she’d resorted to just nodding. When he tried to dodge my dagger eyes on the platform, I stood right between them when we boarded the train. I usually try to sit down when I go in for my early-morning, 12-hour Sunday shifts because let’s face it, I’m fucking tired. But I just felt her pain way too much and held my ground, keeping an occasional glare going. She got off the train without being disturbed anymore. He tried to say bye to her and she walked off.

This also relates to Mother’s Day in a cosmic way because my abuelita and my mama used to do this when talking public transit in Mexico. Men did not fuck around with them. I’m so glad I’m finally being stronger about my beliefs and not letting people intimidate me with their bullshit ego, feigned respect and huge entitlement issues. I am a woman of color and it is my job to help my fellow women out.

Sexist men of the world, be afraid!

You know why I get sick of people telling me it’s necessary to laugh at rape?

I DONT WANT TO FUCKING LAUGH AT WHAT HAPPENED TO ME. I’M NOT READY AND IT’S NOT FUNNY TO ME. DON’T TELL ME HOW THE FUCK TO COPE WITH MY OWN TRAUMA.

Watch no one apologize for mislabeling my race. Watch everyone try to cover their ass for this victim blaming bullshit and never own up. I fucking hate Tumblr sometimes.

Well hear this: I am a proud ass Latina who has been fucked up by harassment and other sex crimes by men. I have been blamed before, and I refuse to deal with it any longer, especially when your best excuse is because I’m white, WHICH I’M NOT.

So let me get this straight.

We can allow people to get dogs and choose whether or not to spay or neuter them.

Then if an unspayed female dog becomes pregnant and the owner decides they don’t want to pay the expenses to birth the puppies and take care of them, that owner can take the dog to the vet and have the puppies aborted.

If we’re making an argument for the “voiceless,” then why isn’t the pro-life crowd extending their outrage to animals? After all, if the owner didn’t want the dog to get pregnant, why didn’t they spay her? Isn’t that irresponsible, so therefore the owner should pay the consequences? Y’know, because the dogs and puppies don’t have a say and it’s wrong to exert control over the lives of those who cannot speak…?

It’s almost as if lifers are self-important reactionaries obsessed with the idea that all people NEED to be born. And for what? What happens after? Where do these lifers go once all these babies are born?

Sorry, guys. But people don’t NEED to be born. Not every single fetus that was ever conceived needs to be born. I see no actual, reasonable argument that can express why every time a woman conceives, she needs to give birth. I mean, if your only reason for the “sanctity” of life equates to humanness, then maybe there’s some wars you should be trying to end or something. And maybe your rationale is painfully stupid and self-absorbed.

The thing about sexist men is that apparently they’re allowed to get raging mad or bitterly annoyed when women do things a certain way because “UGH, that’s how women are and they’re stupid, why do they do this???”

But the second you’re mad that they’re doing something a certain way or suggest that men are socialized a certain way, it’s misandry.

Yet they use the defense that they are allowed to disrespect us and participate in certain behaviors because “that’s just how men are.”

Wat.

I feel like if I’m going to fight for things that are right to me, I should make myself available. So for any followers or people who visit my blog, please feel free to use my ask box for questions on the following topics:

Abortion rights
Feminism
Marijuana laws and consumption
Safe tattooing and piercing
Cooking/food (healthy food, food to impress a date, food on a budget, appropriate kitchenware, good beers)

TRUST ME I’M HELPFUL.

How is it that people are angrier that kids nowadays have iPhones, but make excuses for and downplay children raping one another and/or bullying each other to death?